I haven't spoken to my dad in months & this morning he sparked up a conversation about politics....
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So for context I(23F) haven't spoken to my abusive father(40M) in months. He relapsed in his addiction & I want nothing to do with that. Today he messaged me out of the blue a video of Donald Trump dancing w/ the caption "Send this to a Democrat to ruin their day". I messaged back that I don't claim any political affiliation, I just believe in human rights. He tried to say there has been & are no human rights violations in America. I shared my perspective on free education & healthcare, he got aggressive & so did I. He is genuinely illiterate to an extent as you can see.
His comments are in refrence to the fact that I can no longer work due to having Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome & the comorbidies that have developed. Those who have Ehlers-Danlos or know about know that there is ample evidence to the condition. My doctors have even offered to speak with him. He refuses to believe me. The relative he's referencing is my grandmother who has a severe case of Munchausens by Proxy Syndrome.
I(23F)was invited to a family wedding, my dad(40m) threatened to "bash me & my dates head in to the street" if I showed up...b/c my date is Haitian...
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As the title says, March of 2023 I was invited to my Dad's sisters wedding. My dad's sister was ok that my date is Black...my dad was not, he said I was bringing unnecessary drama to the wedding & going to ruin his sisters wedding. He then told me he would smash our skulls in to the pavement if I arrived w/ my date on my arm (this date is a friend of 5 years). I told him he will not touch either of us, & he was not allowed to threaten me. Apparently it is isn't a threat according to him.
Tidbit this is the last time my father & I spoke up until today (see the post I submitted prior to this). This was in March of 2023. Also my father is illiterate & primarily texts via voice to text which is why it's so choppy.
Harvard = Uber Driver
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Was getting my PhD but was more interested in research in another lab at Harvard. (There was some drama in Maine) Since I was little he has been pushing me to go, but now the goal posts have changed yet again. I didn’t realize following your passion and research interests would mean I won’t get my degree.
Things my mom shares on Facebook 😒
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It’s VERY tempting to comment on the posts but that would probably be counterproductive and only cause more problems.
She constantly talks behind my back about me and is all smiles to my face.
Anything I talk to her about, she twists around and tells other people I said something completely different. Vise versa as well. I’ve heard her say a LOT of stuff about my bother to the point where I don’t know what to believe or who to trust.
She makes me question if I’m in the wrong for literally anything. Like I actually feel bad for asking her to use my preferred pronouns and name.
(Screenshots from transphobic convo in my previous post)
(I’m 24 FTM transgender and she is VERY transphobic. Well, she says she isn’t. She just “doesn’t agree†with it.)
She wonders why I don’t come to her to talk about issues or anything. 🤔