My mom has been spreading lies about me for the past 11 years
What about it?
To start off, I’ve been no contact with her for over 2 years, my dad 1.5 and my brother 1 year. My family has always gaslit me and blamed any “disagreement†on the fact that I have PTSD. They are very transphobic, which is another reason I cut them off. I cut them off before I came out as trans masc, but my cousin informed me that my mom has been telling all the adults in the family (and others who will listen) that I have multiple personalities (DID) and that’s why they don’t believe I’m truly trans.
Unfortunately, this makes a lot of sense. Some family have said they are “afraid†to talk to me and feel they have to “walk on eggshells†to not upset me. I took it as they are being kind to not trigger my PTSD, but other little comments now make sense. A lot of my extended family will also tell me to “get over my issues†and get back in contact with my immediate family, and I never listen.
I blocked most of my family (with the exception of four cousins who are on my side) and I feel so deflated. No one wants to be no contact, and it hurts that the only family I had left is now gone. I knew my mom was insane, and would do and say whatever she could to make her look like the good guy, but this is a whole other level. She’s asked family and friends to “spy†for her and tell her anything I say, so she can keep tabs on me. I didn’t think it’d get worse than that.
Any comfort or advise on how to make it not hurt so much is greatly appreciate.