Losing my phone or losing my mind?
What about it?
The only reason I agreed to share my location with her was so she could STOP constantly asking me where I am. I’m at the smoke pit at work… what do you think I’m doing?🤔 anyone else have a parent that acts like a parole officer?
My Mother’s Response to Going No Contact
What about it?
For context, my father is in prison for molesting me. She still denies that I was abused and insists I get a great childhood. She wanted to have a better relationship with me, so she volunteered to watch my daughter once a week. Then she decided she needed a roommate. I asked her to not get a male roommate because I worry about my child being molested. She acted all offended that I would worry about such a thing. I got really upset.
My husband and I decided to go NC with her after taking to our therapist. My mom’s response was basically “Lol. Guess I get to sleep in!â€
Mom forgot my birthday
What about it?
That alone doesn’t make her insane, but it’s a pattern of neglect. In 2001, for example, when I was 19, I moved out to live with her because my life was falling apart. I was reaching out for help, and willing to go to therapy or whatever I could to improve my life. After a grueling drive half way across the country, I arrived almost broke, and because I had no money that I spent mostly on the trip, she put me in a homeless shelter. My last text from her is when I texted her on Mothers Day.
My father whose in prison, has started texting me after I've been no contact for over a year.
What about it?
My father has been in prison for over ten years & insists on trying to keep in contact with me.
I used to respond to his emails right after he got in, but as the years went on my life got busier, I got older & realized I shouldn't feel obligated to have to talk to him.
I've had a rocky relationship with my father my whole life, & he chose to break our relationship with the choices he made when I was a child.
For awhile I couldn't afford for to even buy the minutes to talk to him, which upset him & he accused me & god of punishing him with silence.
In the past year I've gone non contact completely, due to him begging me for money yet again.
I do not respond nor do I ever answer the phone, every email or voicemail is something religious & how he prays I'll talk to him & how much he misses me.
I've told my sibling who has steady communication with him that I do not want him to contact me & I don't really want anything to do with him & he knows this.
Per his last email which I read but didn't respond, he begged for money for his account & he would be calling soon & he prays I'll answer so we can discuss "things".
He'll call me at least twice a day at random times everyday always leaving long voicemails praying for me & how if I could slip him some money for this or that.
Now that I ignored his most recent phone call, I'm now receiving texts from him, & I have no clue how he's actually texting me.
I've tried to cut contact by literally being non contact with him for over a year & he only gets updates about my life from my sibling now.
But the texts are feeling a bit much & I'm starting feel overwhelmed by his constant communication attempts with me.
Should I just block the number & continue ignoring him or should I respond to him myself & tell him again I don't want anything to do with him.
If I do text him back it will be the first time I've spoken to him in over a year.