I feel like I’m in a abusive relationship with my mom (trauma dump below) the last text is about my fiancés dead mother.

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I have a lot of trauma when it comes to my mother. My first bully, my biggest bully. My parents are both pill addicts, they would hide pill bottles from each other in the house. My mother made a game where I would find my dads pills and bring them to her, she would tell me good job and then they would fight. I remember going into elementary school and thinking, “no one can hurt my feelings, my mother does” It’s ironic because she’s always wanted a daughter, I’m her second kid and only daughter. I think when I began 1st grade she started to realize I wasn’t as smart as my older brother. I had obvious learning disabilities at a young age, but my mother would insist I understood, but I “couldn’t comprehend” in her words. She would abuse me often while doing homework, the kind of slaps that leave a entire hand print raised up. Hair pulling so strong it would leave bumps on my head and would be painful to move my hair. Slamming my head against the wall until my nose bled. When she was in a rage from her Xanax binge, she would beat me so much and put her hands on my mouth to stop crying. My nose being so stuffed from crying I remember I couldn’t breathe out of it while she had her hands over my mouth. I remember her pushing me up against the corner wall with her hands to my mouth as she’s in my face doing a butt lip growl with spit going in my face as she’s yelling. I can still picture her face as she almost enjoyed watching me be scared of her, like the way a lion looks at it’s prey while on top about to bite. My dad would come home and say he heard me screaming from 2 blocks down. I remember the exact day the beatings stopped. We were at Best Buy and she raised her hand and I flinched people looked and I think she got embarrassed. I’m now 20 moved across the country 18 years of pure hell living in that house. I just don’t understand how a mother who always wanted a daughter can turn to be so evil Also did I mention my mother hasn’t had a job in over 30 years and all she does is complain about how poor we are and she’s so selfless, my father working full time but he’s a gambling addict so all of his money goes into my mothers name because he can’t control himself.

update to my last post here. I asked my mum what was going on and this is her response. im so tired man

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"many points that dont make sense" shes just going to go through every word of the message i sent her and tell me exactly why im wrong and crazy isnt she. it baffles me how she can read what i wrote and instead of worrying about all the harm shes let her child go through shes just focused on correcting me and proving me wrong

My parents keep letting my indoor cat outside

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A few months ago my parents agreed to let me get a Rag-doll cat under the conditions that l'd take care for it and take full responsibility for. I've was fully on board with taking care of the cat and keeping it all to myself. If you don't know, Rag-doll cats are a breed of strictly indoor cats. They are very affectionate and docile, but this makes them very vulnerable to encountering other outdoor animals, hence making them preferred indoor pets. For me, this would mean keeping constant tabs on my cat and making sure our doors were always closed so she wouldn't run out. Apparently my parents didn't fully read that particular fine print about them (or they just don't care). They keep leaving our back door open and letting the cat out to explore the backyard. I keep warning them that it wasn't a good idea an my cat might escape. Today my cat escaped out of our backyard and found her way into our neighbours yard (they have a dog). Fortunately she has an AirTag on her collar and a sound we can play to find her. Me and my mom trespassed into the neighbours yard and found my cat. Fortunately she didn't get far this time, but it shows that she can get out of our yard and get lost. I scolded my parents for letting the cat out but they didn't seem to care at all. They threatened to get rid of my cat if she wouldn't be trained as an outdoor cat. They label me as being cruel for trying to keep her inside. Anything I show them to prove that Rag dolls are indoor cats, my parents just brush it off like anyone who agrees doesn't know what they're talking about. My parents see my cat sometimes swat at our two dogs and they use that as evidence that she can defend herself from anything if she gets out. No matter what I say or show them, they always gaslight me to think I'm the irresponsible one.

Happened a while ago, but I was reminded of it on here. What prompted this: I made a post pointing out evangelical Christian hypocrisy. This was my mom's response, referencing my deceased grandparents.

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She then went on to make a comment just below this, about how trans men are r*ping little girls in bathrooms, but that "doesn't make all trans people the same", which was a comment so far outta left field... Also, can confirm she does, in fact, consider all trans and gay people to be the same, damnable, etc. Source: her reaction when I came out to her as bi.

I had the nerve to ask for my Social Security checks

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I woke up to this after texting him late last night I’m 18 btw, I moved out at 17 because both my ‘parents’ were toxic :/

Is my dad being normal

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So my dad is quite overprotective of me, yes most parents are like that, but he begs me to come and see him, and if I don’t want to, he’ll whine to my mum and he tries to change my mind (I live with mum). Recently he’s been getting into my school reports (because my mum blocked him) and is trying to find as much about me as he can when my mum won’t send him anything (he can get my reports because I’m under 16, not stating my exact age though). He also has access to my location so if I’m anywhere but home he will keep asking where I am, even if I’m just 10-15 miles away. To add, I’ve been in hospital and my mum hesitated to tell him, but when she did, he came over on the same day (the hospital is 4-5 hours from where he lives). Thankfully though they didn’t let him in the ward I was in. I know it’s not long before I’m 16, but is he being normal?

LOVE the crazy text rants where she makes everything about herself

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This was all because I mistakenly called her for reassurance because my toenail fell off and I had to rip the last bit off and it was bleeding and created an open wound all down the side of my toe. And literally like 2 months ago I had surgery on the same toe on the other side for an ingrown toenail. That started how? Because there was an open wound on the toe and my nail grew into it. And it was the most painful and miserable four months of my life until I could finally see a surgeon then a painful and uncomfortable and expensive surgery. So I really cannot mentally or physically afford to go through all that again so I was panicking (and still am panicked tbh) because I don’t want the same thing to happen and she gave me a speech about how she told me I should keep soaking my toe and I just don’t listen and that she’s right and I’m dumb basically and then was yelling at me and telling me I was being “ridiculous” when I started to cry and that it was all my fault for pulling it and I should have learned my lesson so I hung up on her. These are the texts that followed

Mom doesn't approve my makeup (I'm 27)

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I'm just a sleepy trash panda, nothing more, lol.

Step dad be guilt trippin.

I’m tired

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My parents have been divorced for about 11 years now. Since I was 3. Last year the rules surrounding the divorce changed. Now instead of my father making the trips up a four hour drive and down a four hour drive, my mother brings us up on a Friday for the weekend and my dad brings us back down on Sunday. Since this has changed my mother starts ranting to me because he wants to follow court order and won’t drive us up because his government job doesn’t allow him to drive. I’m so tired of it and it really pisses me off when I get the text about something I shouldn’t be talking about or hearing about. She broke court order three times simply by leaving the country without telling my dad about it. Today she got back and started ranting about what happened.

A grown man acting like this if he doesn't have his way. Do I respond?

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I'm certain that my parents are some sort of narcissist abusers but they're not diagnosed. I notice this type of complaining happens when he isn't in control of the relationship, or wants more attention. I'm trying to keep a good relationship with this person, but after a not so good childhood (to say the least, it was enabling & physical abuse) and now constant hoovering and helicoptering now that I'm over 18, I doubt this is going to last.