Please tell me I’m not going to die for touching it (feels soft) also wtf is this

Seen A Couple of These Outside Our Window (Alabama)

What is this fly? Pencil for scale

These flies have been bothering me for months. They're so tiny, and very annoying. Any idea? Sorry the bad picture, I can't get a good photo of a live one

What is this?

Hoping this isn’t what I think it is…

Small critter, maybe 1 cm long. In eastern North Carolina